Thursday, December 18, 2014

This grandma got hit by a reindeer

I borrowed this picture.  Wish it was my car and my packages.  It's been a rough week.  Nothing bout it had to do with Christmas.
When you get a phone call at 4:30 a.m., you know it isn't going to be good.
I will try to make this brief and upbeat.  Remember when the youngest that had us so worried, like just a couple weeks ago.  We knew he was being taken advantage of and not in a safe environment.  Well in less than a month, there he is in the middle of the night sitting in front of his old apartment.  He had been eating ramen noodles and all of his money was gone.  Oh, and sleeping on the floor in a smoke filled house.  He is still coughing like crazy.  Okay, fast forward the week.  We did get him back in his old apartment with a new deposit and rent.  So glad the land lady was really nice and helpful.  I imagine because no one complained about him and I paid the rent always ahead of time.  But all of his utilities and benefits took a lot of work.  Hours spent on the phone and waiting at various offices , and on and on.   Okay, this hasn't been the first time for refurnishing.  But after 3 moves for him and us downsizing we are running out of extras.  We gave him a sofa, a table and a dresser.  He will sleep on the sofa for awhile.  He had a few shirts but other things were not made available.  Yes, we could get the police involved.  We didn't want to stir the pot because these bad roomies live very close to where he is.  We saw his things in the trash.  We started to look and decided that it wasn't worth going through garbage.  I went to Goodwill today.  I thought I got  TV but it was a monitor.  Since having an old refurbished computer, no game systems and no longer a TV, he will go crazy without anything to do.  I don't know how many game machines we have purchased, just for him to sell or trade.  Not wanting to get him new ones and not just for the cost..........old and used will hopefully show him how hard it is to start over.  Bills and money are back in my name.  Hubby said it's the last bailout.  I know we wouldn't be able to leave him homeless.  Just the few days he was here were exhausting.  He cannot come back here to live.  He says he is thankful and I think he gets it BUT does he. 
Christmas has been on hold but now I have to step it up.  Our family Christmas is Sunday.  I leave for my daughter's in Colorado on Monday.  Hubby is coming out later for just a few days.  Good thing I decided not to stress about Christmas.
I am a little stressed that packages are not arriving.  None of them.  I keep checking and they aren't here.  Mostly worried about the things I had made for the grands.  That person has sent a duplicate package of handmade things that she remade.  That package still hasn't come. 
My house is upside down because of moving out furniture for our son to take.  It drives me crazy when the house has been so perfect for the showings.  The real estate signs are gone as of yesterday.  The listing expired.  We will relist after the holidays.  Feels so good to not be waiting on the phone calls to show the house. 
I got my minis this week......that did come.  It was the Christmas shop.  I will borrow someone's picture to show you.  Right now it sounds like too much work to photo them.  I did get my haircut.  It's been forever.  My beautician was gone for awhile.  Like 6 months.  I did cancel therapy today because I just couldn't do it.
So, off I go to make this house a little more back to normal.  Shopping is as done as it's going to be.  If the packages don't arrive some will have late gifts. 
(oh and about the grandma getting run over by a reindeer.  When I was the director of a before and after school  program, I had a friend that had a reindeer.  She brought it in for the kids to see.  She had to bring him up to the third level.  He pooped and the principal cleaned it up.  He posed for pictures including with me.  I put my head down close to his and tried to cuddle up.  He shook his head really hard and almost blinded me.  He was truly a wild animal and I am not too bright.  But it was such a fun time)
So stay clear of those reindeer and carry on. Ho Ho Ho


Ceekay-THINKIN of HOME said...

All I will say is been there, done that, several times. DONE! I don't know if they ever really get it, but we cannot live our lives forever for a grown child.
Try to enjoy Christmas.....and refresh!

~Lavender Dreamer~ said...

Oh my goodness! You've had a rough week. I'll keep your family in my prayers my friend! Try not to worry! Sweet hugs, Diane

NanaDiana said...

Oh, Debbie! It is hard enough to go through any of those things but even rougher when it is the Holidays. I know what you mean. We had one that we bailed out again and again and again and finally closed the door because it was killing us. He did come around but it took about 3 years for him to find his way back to living a "normal" life.

My heart aches for you. I am glad your house is off the market though. That is a good thing...and I am glad you are going to get to see the kids for Christmas. If your stuff doesn't come on time maybe hubby can bring it with him?

Hope you have a peaceful night, Debby. xo Diana

ps. I might have snickered about the reindeer story at your expense!

Susie said...

Debby, Here is a big hug for you. I am going to pray for all of you. I wish you a peaceful holiday...I know we love our kids, and don't want them to suffer. Blessings, xoxo,Susie

vivian said...

oh my friend... that all sounds exhausting! Just remember the real reason we celebrate christmas and that should help you keep it all in perspective. Im sorry about your sons situation. I cant imagine how your heart must ache with worry sometimes. Im hoping that the trip to your daughters will be refreshing for you. wishing you peace and joy my friend!

Julia said...

Oh Debby, you're really are having some rough time when it should be the other way around. The thing is, there are so many other going through the same thing so you know you are not alone.

Hopefully some day he'll smarten up.
You're in my prayers.


Oh my...I hope that everything turns around for you and that you and your family have a wonderful Christmas!
The real estate market is slow in Jan, so you might want to wait until February to list it.
Merry Christmas.

Cozy Little House said...

What a week! I'm glad you're out from under the stress of wondering when the realtor is going to call. At least for awhile. You are a kind soul to keep helping him.

Vickie @ Ranger 911 said...

Debbie, my heart goes out to you, because I know how hard it must be to see your son in the shape he's in. You are so kind and generous, but there's a limit as to how much you can do. I hope you can forget about all your troubles for just a little while when you spend the holidays at your daughter's. Take care of YOU!

Winkel's Crazy Ideas said...

Oh dear Debby, l feel awful for you. Certain grown children can make ones life a misery at times, you and your husband have really had your share of troubles there. Try not to worry too much about Christmas, hold on to the One who came for us all. Do so wish you all the best, blessings and hugs, Pam xx

Shirley said...

Hi Debby, My heart goes out to you and I am sending you a big long distance hug. I thought you definitely could use it. You asked about the bow on my grandson's jewelry box. The bow is made out of walnut and cherry wood. Go and enjoy your family, I am sure they will be happy if the presents don't get in on time by just having you there for Christmas. It is about the family being together.
We had snow today. So many wrecks but I stayed home. Have a wonderful Christmas and New Year. Take care. Sending many hugs and prayers from your Missouri Friend Shirley.

Linda said...

Been there - done that - bought the t shirt!!!
I highly recommend a book for you....
'The Language of Letting Go' by Melody Beattie.
I read this every day. It is a daily dort of read and I have given this book to over a dozen friends and family members. There was another book that helped me so much by William Coleman titled 'Parents with Broken Hearts.'
Love and prayers for you and all you are going through. Stay strong and take care of yourselves - as in you and your husband. This WILL come to pass! It has NOT come to stay. They DO grow up - one way or another.
I will mail you a copy of Melody's book if you will message me your address.
Count your blessings and enjoy the areas of life that you CAN rejoice over!!
Love and prayers from Texas!

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Nan said...

I don't know all the details with your son but he sounds like he needs to live in a group situation where he can be supervised. Am I wrong here as it sounds beyond you just letting him go he needs some kind of direction. Is that at all possible where you live? You probably have already been there. I ask as it's very well done here in Homer Alaska. The best to your and here's hoping for a Merry Christmas.

Art and Sand said...

I am so sorry for all you are going through right now and I hope that things settle down soon. I agree with NanaDiana that things seem to be worse at the holidays with so much going on.

My wish for you this Christmas is peace in your life and a wonderful time with your family.

Grammy Goodwill said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your son's situation. I can relate to your family issues. Bless your heart and take care of yourself. Merry Christmas.