Tuesday, March 18, 2014
Broken Hearts, Faith and Understanding
Last night my son's friend died. He actually took his life two weeks ago but was being kept alive by life support. His family knew there was no hope and let him go peacefully.
This was a troubled young man that was turning his life around. He had recently joined the Mormon Church and was headed in the right direction. Then his past caught up with him suddenly. He didn't know how to handle it so he ended his life. All very sudden and sad. There were no good-byes as when he was found he was already gone.
He was adopted and had some special needs. as my son has as well. I now there will be lots of judging and that isn't what his family needs. He was always a friend to our son. He would come and go out of my son's life but always would pop back in once in awhile. My son had introduced him to the Mormon community. He joined the church and was making good choices and doing good things.
This Mormon community has wrapped their arms around "our boys". They do not judge. They don't care about your past but love you for who you are and who you could be. They encourage you, not tear you down. I remember another church of ours being the opposite. For instance my son went to camp with another friend of his (yes, also adopted with special needs). This friend acted out at camp. Our son was told not to come back because of that. Of all places, church members were judging and not open to get to know "our boys." This is probably why we don't go there anymore. I know how easy it is to see the bad not the good, but God doesn't make "junk." We have been studying this at church the past two weeks.
Yes, we are very worried about our Chris. He is heart broken about his friend. He wanted to tell him good-bye but he couldn't. Our son doesn't handle things well . He lost another friend (also adopted and special needs). This friend was very mentally unstable and was turned loose without anyone there to support him. He did a very hurtful crime. Later he took his own life.
Writing this in attempt to share with you not to judge. Get to know what is really inside these lost souls. Help them see that there is good within. Don't walk away. Tell them that God loves them even if you can't love them. Feel bad for their families, offer them support and hope.
I'm not writing this for comments. I may even remove this post. I know that it is extremely sad. I needed to get these words out so I can move forward and be able to be there for our son.
If you have read all of this, God Bless you. Do something nice for someone that needs a little love.