I will mention that my Mom had some hand surgery for skin cancer. Not a melanoma the basil cell type. She had it removed three years ago but they must not have gotten it all. She had the Mohs type which included two hours the first day and two the next. A dime size scaly place turned into a half dollar hole to be stitched together by 15 stitches. Her fingers look so deformed from all the stretching. We changed the bandage for the first time today. She is so stubborn and does things her way. If she makes it through the healing process without an infection or a major bleed, I will be amazed. I have know others that have had skin cancer, melanoma and others. The incisions are always enormous. If you have an question that you may have something that needs checked......call the doctor.
After one of the days we went out for lunch afterwards. When we checked out the cashier asked about her bandage. Then she said, "Did they catch it in time." Now how do you answer that.
Switching gears to the other mother, my mother in law. She is actually doing okay. Her memory isn't good but she is much better than she was. She has been moved into a nursing home permanently. Her little apartment has been emptied. She doesn't want to do much of anything except eat breakfast and sleep. I went to see her one day that I was home with my mom. I walked in and she looked excited to see me. I sat down and she said, "I don't know who you are but you are old." Yep, she said I was old. Then I told her who I was and she said, "I don't care who any of you are, I am not staying to talk to you, I am going to sleep." I stayed for awhile. Every now and then she would open one eye and look my direction to see if I was still there. My husband went to see her today. She told him I was never there to see her. She said his name and knew he was. The next person in the door she said he (my husband) was her uncle.
Thank you all for your prayers and words of comfort. I so appreciate you all for listening to me vent and caring for those I love. So hoping this week I can get back in the swim of things, do something crafty, take some new photos and catch up on my blog reading.
(((((HUGS)))))
Patrick fishing in Colorado
16 comments:
Life is really never easy but some days are downright hard! Hope it gets better real soon Debby! Don't fret about weeding and cleaning! Easy for me to say.
I just wanted to THANK YOU so MUCH for the prayers for my BFF...and I see now that you also need prayers for your loved ones. Good thing God hears us all and even at the same time!
Warmly,
deb
Debby, My heart and prayers goes out to you. I had brothers and sisters to share my mother's illness, but my mil was a different story. I not only had my hubby to take care of, but to be responsible for her to. I know only to well what you are going through. Others don't understand what you go through until they walk in your shoes with a love one. Do what you feel like doing and take care of yourself. I keep you in my prayers. Hugs from Your Missouri Friend.
I haven't done blogging in a week but I caught your post here and laughed at what happened with your mother in law and the comment, oh don't you love it. I have an appt myself to get something checked in fact as I have had skin cancer a number of times in my life so I try to stay on top of it. Guests here all week so we're busy plus pristine weather for the first time this summer! Went boating and fishing. Love Nan
Chaos!!! Oh well, who cares what gets done or not? Just take it easy and roll with the punches, girl. Call me when you can. xo Sue
Oh Debby-
You have so much on your plate!
Like you said, I hope you find some time to do something "crafty", and some other things that you enjoy! It's so important.
Erica :)
Oh, Debby, taking care of a parent can be stressful. Hang in there. Sending hugs your way....
Oh Debby, I can only imagine what you're going through. Hang in there and hopefully this week will go much better than the last.
So hard, isn't it? I hate seeing my parents and in-laws (and me!) aging, etc. Good luck with all you are going through.
Bless your heart, Debby. I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. It's not easy dealing with aging parents, while aging ourselves. (hehehe - You know you just have to laugh, or you'll cry.) I hope things will get easier for you.
Debby, I could not help but feel sad reading your blog. I know there's a hugh weight on you. It's sad when someone we love can't remember. (your m-i-l.) When it comes to being stubborn, my mom had a head like a rock. It was her way or hell to pay. If my children ever have to do for me, I pray I just keep my mouth shut. I don't know about you honey, but I am so ready for my vacation. Let someone else cook and clean, I'll gladly tip them. :):) xo, Susie
What a lot to be going through...God bless your mom and MIL. I had some basil cancer on my face, not fun!
Just take a day at a time and everything will get done. Our work is never done as a wife and mother it seems..
Sending big hugs, Elizabeth
I'm so sorry to hear about the hardships you're dealing with between your 2 mother's health. I know your mother will get through this, but your MIL is in a more difficult place. Probably, the best thing you can do is to be there for them (as you already are) and take one day at a time. It can feel overwhelming if you try to worry about what's to come.
Debby, the embroidery pattern is by Sarah Jane.
Joy
Hi Debby, Hope you can get back to your regular routine, and the comfort of doing the ordinary. God bless you for caring for your Moms, it is the hardest job, and unless you've been there yourself, you can't understand. Sending out a big hug my friend. Love, Penny
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